Five Elements – Control Cycle

Earth Controls Water

Earth controls Water with her banks.  Like her arms stretched out, and Water is falling, tumbling down, in her arms.  A bit of a free fall.  Earth is our harvest/results, our value and values.  Earth needs to control our movement.  Our values need to guide our choices.
Simple Right!?  Take a look at a VALUES Inventory, and deeply consider what your most important values are.  Which Five or so override or “trump” the others.  From your perspective. Then reflect upon how well you are living your values.  Or compromising, or getting used to the way things are…?  Happy Reflecting!  If you see an imbalance, you’ll know what to do!!

Water Controls Fire

Super obvious, right?  We even call people with water hoses if a fire gets out of control!  Now, just add attributes.   Water is cool, flexible, soft, accommodating and represents our movement/choices.  Fire is bouncy, bright, hot and represents our heart passion and the warmth we share.  (Consider-How often your interactions are cool or hot, not passion hot but fiery-defensive hot?  How could you increase warmth in your interactions?)
This is the Natural Law that led to THIS VIDEO.  “Don’t tell me NO, tell me how I can!”  Gentle boundaries without putting out the fire!!
How else can Water attributes control Fire?  Unwanted war, battle, or combat.  “DrStone, you are an idiot.”   “Ha…You might be right.” (Flexible and accommodating). Unwanted heat from the opposite sex…would you act cool?  Sounds logical, but our culture thinks partnering is a game, so it might not work.  It might be seen as playing the game!?  This is not like the cool kids, but this is effective for me.  “Have you read Plato’s dialogue, the Symposium?  He said that the purest love is the love of beauty itself, which cannot survive intimacy.  That’s why we say ‘Platonic’ when we describe a non-sexual relationship.
We could follow the kid rule…tell them how they can!  “Of course… I’m attracted to philosophical and intellectual types who have a strong connection to their femininity, but still powerfully masculine.  I’m into healing, nature, plants.  If you haven’t been working on your healing, at least to the point that I can expect emotional maturity, consideration, and exclusively Non-Violent Communication, then you’ll have to get back to me.  Otherwise, I’d be open to a ‘get to know you’ coffee.  And just a heads up, I’m far from easy.  Some would actually say difficult.
Yeah, thats mine.  LOL.
Mostly, this Law is about providing gentle encouragement, enough guidance to avoid breaking laws or getting anyone hurt, and teaching an innocent heart how to ‘Shine Your Light’ in this culture.  YOU are your momma, the one who mothers you now… so that is your responsibility to provide to yourself.
Thankfully, if you give it out, it tends to come back, so you get some help!  The little girl in the video was so excited about watching a movie together, she told me the whole story before it began.  I said, “Many earthlings get upset if you tell the story before they watch it…they call it spoilers.”
…providing gentle encouragement, enough guidance to avoid breaking laws or getting anyone hurt, and teaching an innocent heart how to ‘Shine Your Light’ in this culture.

Fire Controls Metal

This Law reminds me of ‘Conan the Barbarian’ and the hammering of steel pulled from the fire to make swords.  Fire is used to shape Metal.  Fire is our heart passion and warmth, and Metal is our What Matters Most.  The precious gift inside of every person, simply called a unique perspective.  We might call these the ‘tools and resources’ our perspective uniquely contains.  How do we “shape our tools” on a life level?
Socrates was known in his day for “dialoguing.”  To dialogue is the Yin or feminine form of communication, where the interest is knowing someone more deeply and completely.  To sharpen the tools in the subject through showing interest and asking questions of clarification.   The Yang or masculine form of communication is “debate.”  To compare ideas and provide evidence that yours would be of greater value.  This is how endangered “dialogue” is.  I asked a college aged person why he was getting a new phone.  I was interested in his reasoning, perhaps a new feature that he was interested in.  He heard it as debate, that I was “questioning” his choice, and his friend said.  “You don’t have to answer him.”  LOL.  I agreed…I wouldn’t force anyone to dialogue, or debate.  Currently, dialogue is defined as a script for characters in a movie or play.  Hmmm…?  Seems yet again, we need to increase Yin to improve the health of our culture!
Socrates was like super smart and stuff, so when he dialogued with young people, asking them about their interest, beliefs, and values…not directly, but by asking “why they would make that choice”…he would point out contradictions and incongruities.   “If that is true, then this cannot be true.”  He encouraged questioning and critical thinking.  He encouraged the sharpening of the tools in the Gifts from God he was dialoguing with.  Socrates was sentenced to death for “corrupting youth” and “impiety,” aka failing to honor the city Gods.  He comforted his followers by telling them that he was not scared bc “we don’t know what happens when we die, and it might be a great blessing.”  Some say his punishment wasn’t about corrupting the youth, but embarrassing a noble-man by pointing out the contradictions in his reasoning.  We don’t know.
Socrates was called the wisest man in Greece for his observations and examinations of life. He doubted that could be true, since he found so many contradictions in what we ‘know,’ that he felt like he knew nothing!  But after contemplating, he decided to accept the title, bc at least he was aware of his knowing nothing.  “Perhaps I am more smarter than anyone else!?”  We’ll never know for sure.
Natural Law seems to suggest that we need more sharpening and shaping of the innate gifts in our kiddos.  We need more dialogue. We need more questioning.  Not necessarily questioning authority, but Socrates refused to participate in an execution ordered by the court…an act of civil disobedience so significant that MLK mentioned Socrates 3X in his Letter From Birmingham Jail.  Socrates questioned it all, but the Socratic Method is a perspective of knowing nothing.  It’s not a masculine debate.  No agenda, no ‘truth’ to pass along, just sincere curiosity in another human, and willing to help them sharpen their tools by asking for clarification and pointing out contradictions.
“If all people are created equal, how would that be represented
in our culture?  What would we see happening
if we lived, all people are created equal?
One thing for sure…more dialoguing.

Metal Controls Wood

If Wood is everything sprouting from the earth, then Metal is a lawnmower!  Metal cuts, carves, and shapes Wood.  Wood matures to become our structure and boundaries, including the plan we create to pursue our vision / express our passion!
If Metal is our tools and resources, unique to our perspective, and Wood is the sprouting of next…our resources shape our future.  Our tools and resources are discovered or develop naturally, in our quest for our inspired vision.  So naturally, the weeds we cut from our path, or let go of, simply don’t support our vision.  Simple rules for life.  Natural Law.

Wood Controls Earth

​I was taught this law with the analogy of a desert.  Nothing sprouting.  The wind picks up the Earth and throws her around.  Wood controls Earth by keeping her grounded.  Wood is our boundaries, structure, and plan.  Wood is spring time, sprouting energetic life.
Earth is the harvest, the provider, and our value.  This is the law that protects the provider.  When I was growing up, I learned that consideration was a bad word.  It looked bad, anyway.  It looked like being a provider or caretaker was a life of sacrifice.  It hurts.  My intention is to remind providers and caretakers that they should be the best cared for.  A cultural symbol of good caretaking, embodying health and vitality, because their super power is meeting needs.  Sacrificing to the point of pain or suffering is just a bad example for our children.
Wood is your ability to say no, and your wisdom to watch the struggle and see how it turns out.  Along with the wisdom to know when to offer help.  Let’s model healthy boundaries for our kiddos!


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