How I taught to focus on What Matters Most!
How I taught to focus on What Matters Most!
The reflection on our results and looking forward to making more begins with resting our sleepy heads for spring. Next season. Right now we move slowly and calculate our best direction. When Water is rested, she return for Wood. Wood represents everything sprouting in life. Water creates wood, as we all know. We water our plants.
Plants sprout from the earth, even if you put just a bit in a flower pot. She will sprout if you give her Water.
Water is the beginning of movement. Taking a step. “You can do it.” Leaving Moms watchful eyes. “It’s ok, you are safe.” And then she peeks back at you to make sure. And then…
I don’t have a story of me discouraging my kiddos, but I have one where I discouraged discouraging.
I was hanging with the other parents of the girls on Sacred’s soccer team. One said that her daughter was going to become a dentist because she knew she couldn’t make a living playing soccer. I said, “Oh, well good thing that Sacred doesn’t know that.”
I sat by myself after that.
The Ruler is intended to hold and enforce the values of the Innocent. The feminine.
The Politician: He gathers his reassurance by title. His good intentions are distracted by procedure and policy, aka red tape, or even worse, conflicts of interest. Serving others becomes more self serving.
The OverAchiever: He gathers his reassurance from his achievements. He responds to every problem with “doing more,” and is disappointed with anyone who doesn’t strive, even fight, to achieve. “Achievement proves you aren’t scared.”
The Dictator: He defines himself by the power and control he has over people. His reassurance is what he can make people do or believe. He uses punishment or oppression to force his ideals and beliefs on others.
I have voted Democrat and Republican. The only change in my personal results was when the Dem was in office, he punished me for not carrying Health Insurance that I had been terminated from, for helping a woman with a medical condition. I was fined for not paying for insurance that wouldn’t cover True Health. And when the Republican took office, he removed my punishment.
And some Judge will chastise me for noticing that difference. LMAO.
The Idealist: She gathers her reassurance from high standards. Unfortunately, nobody can satisfy her standards, not even herself.
And nobody benefits from imposing boundaries on them…”you should eat vegan. If you don’t I must find better people.” LOL
The Skeptic: She gathers her reassurance from herself, and nobody gets in unless you agree with me on everything. Obviously, her rigidity of belief and distrust of anyone “not on my side,” prevents receiving the value of other perspectives.
And to be fair, most people do not share value, they share criticism.
The Victim: She gathers her reassurance from caretakers. “I need help.” Clinging to a need for care, she has faith that someone will show up. And they do. Those that prey on vulnerability and gullibility, “show up for you.”
Actual Caretakers know that you need to grow up and take responsibility. And when you are taking care, I offer help. A Caretaker knows the difference and will let a helpless person find their strength. But watch out for the predators.
The Dreamer: She gathers her reassurance from her imagination. I will just think about what I want and wait for it to appear. Again, the ugly hand of Responsibility. You will have to take action toward your dreams. It’s Natural Law.
And if you keep your head in dream world, you cannot notice and respond to problems. We all got ’em.
Oh, I know that isn’t really a season, but in terms of the flow of energy in Nature, aka Natural Law, that was a point of distinction. Not a full season, but the bounty of all our efforts. Measuring, literally, “What you sow, you shall reap.” And then you rest.
The Earth element is developed within us from the nurturing care and safety of your mother. “I will care for all your needs, and if anyone gets through the protection of your daddy, they will find a pissed off Momma Bear!”
By the time we had Westy, I was pretty good. He was around 3 and decided to help in setting the table. I heard silverware crashing to the floor and ran into the kitchen. “Westy, what are you doing?” His little eyes looked up at me and said, “I wanna help.”
Someone taught our culture that significance means being better than someone, and somehow that got translated into being right. That couldn’t be more wrong. Telling someone that they are bad or wrong isn’t significance. Significance is helping someone.
In our culture it is very significant to entertain. To make people feel and laugh. And yes, that helps.
The Revolutionary is the masculine version of finding a better way. “OMG, you sliced the bread. Revolutionary.” In our current culture, the Revolutionary is called the Outlaw, because if you don’t do things the way the Man tells you to, there is something wrong with you!
The Everyperson is the feminine version of nobody left behind. “Hey little one, come and join the group. You are just as important as anyone else, and you will get your fair share.”
The Sellout: No, not the stool pigeon…she sells out her own needs and desire for the inclusion of others. While Jesus sacrificed with honor, her sacrifice is viewed as inappropriate to the needs being met.
The Rescuer: She endangers her life and her feminine values for the protection of another. Perhaps not allowing someone to feel the consequences of bad behavior?
The Fanatic: She shifts more black and white, with feminine sensitivity, so anyone with a different perspective becomes a criticism of their own. “How dare you attack me, by choosing differently. Clearly you are calling me an idiot for what I chose.”
The Patriot: She now feels justified to attack, to hurt and criticize others to defend her beliefs and perspective. “My way is the only way.” Nearly 100% man.
Yes sir, the masculine is trying to end the feminine perspective. The respect for people and Mother Earth. Nothing hurts my heart more than a mother hardening her innocent children and baby girls, to survive in this hard world. But that is not understanding the feminine. That is not seeing where this direction leads. That is NOT including every perspective. And that may lead to our demise.
After harvest, we reflect on our results, we look ahead at improving next season, and we let go of anything not serving that inspired vision. Including discouragement and self doubt. Is that self discouragement?
The Metal energy in us is developed through validation and the father relationship. “You are perfect just the way you are, and daddy will protect you from anyone hurting you.” And then when you are 7 and flood the bathtub so it pours down on our kitchen table, daddy hurts you. A smack on the butt. You were laughing at how funny all the water all over the floor was, while I was scolding you, but alas, I never did it again. I could feel the violation of Natural Law.
My kids were pretty validated! (I’m not sure about their grammar though.)
When Gates punched a pushy little girl, I understood. I punched people until I was 25. Mostly just bullies, but I decided it wasn’t a great resource, so I taught him what I had learned.
When my girls named our former president, Barack O’Brownskin, I laughed with them, their innocent, literal minds observed brown skin and had no idea why anyone would judge someone by color of skin, and I taught them what I had learned. “We have to avoid any mention of it, because it is still happening, and this is how bad it was…”
In my school, it was pretty normal to say the N-word, and I had no idea it was something bad. So I said it to my science teacher. Not at him, but to him. He was fairly kind, but pretty intense! Picture a furrowed brow and pursed lips, and a sensitive little boy who feels intentions! Well, not so little, that was grade 10, so I “should have known better!”
Sorry boys, the Sage is the feminine energy, so you might want to listen to their wisdom. But never fear, we all have equal amounts of Yin and Yang energy in our bodies, so you can access your feminine wisdom if you desire!
The Creator is the maker of things. The provider, creating an income and resources for his family. The builder of schools, homes, and even the structure of a culture. Looking to the feminine, Sage, for direction. The Sage can see far off in the future, and predict where each direction will lead. The Sage may see you are headed smack into a wall, and the Sage may decide that the pain will be a better teacher than her wisdom. But she would not allow our demise, so she chooses the best direction for all, and all their expansion. Healthy expansion.
To include and help more people, not to hoard resources.
And every one of them, just…need…validation and protection.