Lessons I Taught My Kiddos!
How I taught to focus on What Matters Most!
Practicing Intuition
Water Archetypes
Water is the season of Winter.
The reflection on our results and looking forward to making more begins with resting our sleepy heads for spring. Next season. Right now we move slowly and calculate our best direction. When Water is rested, she return for Wood. Wood represents everything sprouting in life. Water creates wood, as we all know. We water our plants.
Plants sprout from the earth, even if you put just a bit in a flower pot. She will sprout if you give her Water.
The Water Element develops within us from encouragement. “You are the perfect person to walk your path, keep going, keep moving.
Water is the beginning of movement. Taking a step. “You can do it.” Leaving Moms watchful eyes. “It’s ok, you are safe.” And then she peeks back at you to make sure. And then…
I don’t have a story of me discouraging my kiddos, but I have one where I discouraged discouraging.
I was hanging with the other parents of the girls on Sacred’s soccer team. One said that her daughter was going to become a dentist because she knew she couldn’t make a living playing soccer. I said, “Oh, well good thing that Sacred doesn’t know that.”
I sat by myself after that.
The Water Element develops the Ruler and the Innocent.
The Ruler is the problem solver, fair rules maker, compassionate, loved Leader of All. A man who can command respect because he respects his men, and he loves the ladies. No, not like that…he is willing to die for feminine values.
The Innocent is the feminine energy of virginity. Innocence not taken by a man. Child-like innocence. Where everyone gets to be the hero, and anyone can do anything they want. Like the children in Mary Poppins. Mary is the Fire Element Caretaker, but the children are the innocence that she protects, and help them achieve “flying a kite with daddy.”
The Ruler is intended to hold and enforce the values of the Innocent. The feminine.
If the Ruler receives dis-couragement, he will be afraid to keep moving. He may shift out of balance toward the Yin, the feminine.
You can’t handle the truth!
The Politician: He gathers his reassurance by title. His good intentions are distracted by procedure and policy, aka red tape, or even worse, conflicts of interest. Serving others becomes more self serving.
The OverAchiever: He gathers his reassurance from his achievements. He responds to every problem with “doing more,” and is disappointed with anyone who doesn’t strive, even fight, to achieve. “Achievement proves you aren’t scared.”
He may shift out of balance toward the Yang, the masculine.
The Dictator: He defines himself by the power and control he has over people. His reassurance is what he can make people do or believe. He uses punishment or oppression to force his ideals and beliefs on others.
The Judge: He defines himself by “right and wrong” not knowing that there is no such thing. Just different paths. Success and failure. Try again. His fixation on right and wrong, which should be determined by the result, not a belief or opinion, prevents creative solutions.
I have voted Democrat and Republican. The only change in my personal results was when the Dem was in office, he punished me for not carrying Health Insurance that I had been terminated from, for helping a woman with a medical condition. I was fined for not paying for insurance that wouldn’t cover True Health. And when the Republican took office, he removed my punishment.
And some Judge will chastise me for noticing that difference. LMAO.
If the Innocent receives discouragement she will be afraid to keep moving. She might shift toward the Yang, the masculine.
The Idealist: She gathers her reassurance from high standards. Unfortunately, nobody can satisfy her standards, not even herself.
And nobody benefits from imposing boundaries on them…”you should eat vegan. If you don’t I must find better people.” LOL
The Skeptic: She gathers her reassurance from herself, and nobody gets in unless you agree with me on everything. Obviously, her rigidity of belief and distrust of anyone “not on my side,” prevents receiving the value of other perspectives.
Idgie is the Skeptic. Ruth is the Victim. Evelyn is the Idealist. And Ninny was the dreamer. And also Idgie. The Skeptic. LOL. Those geeky drama queens make you think, right?
And Jerry, has some theories of his own…
And to be fair, most people do not share value, they share criticism.
How has your life been personally changed…better results…when who you voted for, won. Or are you suggesting that you would only notice the results when everyone believed your way. “He was sabotaged by the republican/democratic house. Or he would have been great.” LMAO.
Or she might shift toward the Yin, the feminine.
That’s the Poltergeist Girl. “They are coming.”
The Victim: She gathers her reassurance from caretakers. “I need help.” Clinging to a need for care, she has faith that someone will show up. And they do. Those that prey on vulnerability and gullibility, “show up for you.”
Actual Caretakers know that you need to grow up and take responsibility. And when you are taking care, I offer help. A Caretaker knows the difference and will let a helpless person find their strength. But watch out for the predators.
The Dreamer: She gathers her reassurance from her imagination. I will just think about what I want and wait for it to appear. Again, the ugly hand of Responsibility. You will have to take action toward your dreams. It’s Natural Law.
And if you keep your head in dream world, you cannot notice and respond to problems. We all got ’em.
Yes, it was moms dream, to raise kids this way. In Nature. But she didn’t respond to her own needs. She is loved for the sacrifice…
Earth Archetypes
Earth is the season of “harvest”
Oh, I know that isn’t really a season, but in terms of the flow of energy in Nature, aka Natural Law, that was a point of distinction. Not a full season, but the bounty of all our efforts. Measuring, literally, “What you sow, you shall reap.” And then you rest.
The bible seems to understand Natural Law!?!
The Earth element is developed within us from the nurturing care and safety of your mother. “I will care for all your needs, and if anyone gets through the protection of your daddy, they will find a pissed off Momma Bear!”
And then, when we make cookies together, I get irritated by misses and mistakes instead of nurturing and teaching. I got waaaay better…
By the time we had Westy, I was pretty good. He was around 3 and decided to help in setting the table. I heard silverware crashing to the floor and ran into the kitchen. “Westy, what are you doing?” His little eyes looked up at me and said, “I wanna help.”
I helped him count out 7 forks and spoons, and instructed how to put them beside the plates, and he felt the value of contributing to a larger cause. Significance.
Someone taught our culture that significance means being better than someone, and somehow that got translated into being right. That couldn’t be more wrong. Telling someone that they are bad or wrong isn’t significance. Significance is helping someone.
In our culture it is very significant to entertain. To make people feel and laugh. And yes, that helps.
The Earth energy is our harvest and our value, and it develops the Revolutionary and the Everyperson.
The Revolutionary is the masculine version of finding a better way. “OMG, you sliced the bread. Revolutionary.” In our current culture, the Revolutionary is called the Outlaw, because if you don’t do things the way the Man tells you to, there is something wrong with you!
That sounds like an abusive man, and the feminine should protect the imagination of innocence.
The Everyperson is the feminine version of nobody left behind. “Hey little one, come and join the group. You are just as important as anyone else, and you will get your fair share.”
If the Everyperson does not receive nurturing or the safety of a mother, she will not value herself. She may shift out of balance toward the Yin, the feminine.
The Sellout: No, not the stool pigeon…she sells out her own needs and desire for the inclusion of others. While Jesus sacrificed with honor, her sacrifice is viewed as inappropriate to the needs being met.
The Rescuer: She endangers her life and her feminine values for the protection of another. Perhaps not allowing someone to feel the consequences of bad behavior?
She may shift out of balance toward the Yang, the masculine.
The Fanatic: She shifts more black and white, with feminine sensitivity, so anyone with a different perspective becomes a criticism of their own. “How dare you attack me, by choosing differently. Clearly you are calling me an idiot for what I chose.”
The Patriot: She now feels justified to attack, to hurt and criticize others to defend her beliefs and perspective. “My way is the only way.” Nearly 100% man.
Edith is the Sell-out. Archie is the Patriot. Meathead is the Rescuer, of Gloria, the Fanatic. Robert did the Fanatic some justice too!
If the Revolutionary does not receive nurturing or the safety of a mother, he will not value himself. He may shift out of balance toward the Yin, the feminine.
The Malcontent: She focuses all her energy on what is wrong, and doesn’t move forward with the solution, so she is challenged to be happy or satisfied with the way things are.
The Counter-culture: She decides that anything counter to the trends is the best direction, without actually evaluating the circumstances.
He may shift out of balance toward Yang, the masculine.
DrStone as Esther, his Feminine half
The Radical: This dude has defined himself by the fight against everything that is. Some people see me as a Radical because I have helped the blind to see and the crippled to walk, I stand firmly on feminine values, and I paint my fingernails. But I ain’t fighting anyone. I help people feel better every day. I am sorry that Big Medicine, a trillion dollar per year Bizness, finds me to be a Radical because I won’t comply with their way, which is that medical conditions can not and MAY NOT be helped.
The Paranoid: This dude feels attacked. Convinced that the trend, the mainstream, the way things are, are trying to end his perspective. But if the mainstream controlling power takes your money away for helping a woman with a medical condition, I think you might be right. They are trying to end your perspective.
Yes sir, the masculine is trying to end the feminine perspective. The respect for people and Mother Earth. Nothing hurts my heart more than a mother hardening her innocent children and baby girls, to survive in this hard world. But that is not understanding the feminine. That is not seeing where this direction leads. That is NOT including every perspective. And that may lead to our demise.
“Everything on this planet has evolved, to kill humans.” After Earth.
Metal Archetypes
🌬️ The Metal Archetype: The Season of Reflection and Renewal
The Essence of Metal
Autumn is the season of Metal—the great turning inward.
After harvest, we pause. We reflect on what worked and what didn’t. We refine our craft, honor our results, and release what no longer serves the next season of growth.
In our bodies and lives, Metal teaches clarity, discernment, and letting go—of discouragement, self-doubt, and the illusion that we must be perfect before we are worthy.
The Origin of Metal Energy
The Metal energy in us is shaped through validation and the father relationship—that feeling of,
“You are perfect just the way you are, and I will protect you.”
When that validation is interrupted—when we’re scolded instead of guided, judged instead of protected—the spirit of Metal hardens. We learn to self-criticize, to suppress grief, to seek worth through perfection or productivity.
Healing begins when we realize: what we truly needed was not correction, but connection.
The Creator and The Sage
Healthy Metal manifests as The Creator and The Sage—two halves of one divine intelligence.
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The Creator builds, provides, and brings vision into form.
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The Sage sees beyond the present.
She senses the winds of change, choosing the path of wise expansion—growth that uplifts everyone, not hoards for self-protection.
Together, they represent wisdom in action—the balance of vision and manifestation.
When Metal Falls Out of Balance
When validation and protection are missing, the Creator and Sage distort into patterns we all recognize.
For the Creator (Masculine Energy):
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The Workaholic – Seeks worth through endless doing; achieves much, but loses joy.
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The Laborer – Trades life force for survival; resents those who seem to have it easier.
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The Perfectionist / Fixer (Yin Flip) – Over-controls or over-gives to prove worthiness, burning out in the process.
For the Sage (Feminine Energy):
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The Loner – Feels unseen and misunderstood, retreats from community.
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The Over-Analyzer – Thinks endlessly, but never acts; paralyzed by needing it to be perfect.
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The Guru / Know-It-All – Confuses knowledge with wisdom; closes to curiosity and growth.
At their core, every imbalance is a plea for validation and safety.
When we reintroduce those qualities—through breath, touch, movement, and truth—the Metal element returns to brilliance.
Practices to Polish the Metal
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Acupressure Points:
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LU 1 & LU 9 – Open the chest, restore inspiration, and strengthen self-worth.
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LI 4 & LI 11 – Release rigidity, move grief and anger out through the arms.
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ST 36 – Reconnect Earth and Metal, restoring trust in structure and life.
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Movement / Qigong:
Practice “Parting the Clouds” or “Drawing the Bow”—movements that open the lungs and shoulders, symbolizing release.
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Reflection Practice:
Ask:“Where am I holding on to what no longer serves?”
“What am I ready to forgive—especially in myself?” -
Herbal Allies:
Herbs that support the Metal element include white mulberry leaf, chrysanthemum, astragalus, and licorice—cleansing, protective, and gentle tonics for the lungs and spirit.
Restoring Brilliance
Metal’s gift is refinement—turning raw experience into wisdom.
When balanced, you feel calm, clean, inspired, and free to express truth with compassion.
When out of balance, life feels tight, critical, or uninspired.
The way back is through validation, breath, and release.
Through daily practice, we polish the dullness of discouragement until we shine again—strong, radiant, and clear.
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