Water creates Wood and Wood creates Fire. Fire is your heart’s desire.
What is your heart’s desire? Desire can be softened to “your preference.“ Wanting feels hard (imposing) to the softest (most sensitive) among us, as hard as imposing your will on someone. Preference is soft, making it easy to share your heart’s desire.
Feel this. “Where do you want to go to dinner?” Wanting imposes, so we say, “I don’t know, where do you want to go?” I suggest adding,
“I really like Chinese food.” Your preference.
I suggest adding “Accept Nothing Less Than Your Heart’s Desire.”
Hardness (masculine, yang) owns this energy. Softness (feminine, yin) bends and stretches to meet the needs and desires of hardness, and then puts up with never getting their turn (Heart Desire, Preference).
Do you rarely get what you prefer??
I call that “Putting Up With Less Than your heart desire.
You could probably put up with Mexican food every night and physically survive! Your flexibility is your Water energy, and you can fit every container. But excess Water puts out Fire. And, your flexibility teaches hardness (masculine, yang) to expect to get what they want, every single time.
Fire creates Earth, and Earth represents our harvest.
Softness should receive appreciation, so when softness is taken for granted, it means that Water energy is putting out heart Fire. A dampened Fire creates very little warmth and a sparse harvest.
Your meager paycheck… your being taken for granted, and allowing it to continue, which teaches hardness “Don’t Consider Softness,” plants the seed of resentment. At first, it feels like being taken for granted.
Just remember that “Putting Up With Less” created that payday.
“Putting Up With Less” sprouts into anger and upset, causing the soft heart to betray itself by “Picking Your Battles.” After many cycles of “Putting Up With Less” to the point of anger, followed by “Accepting Nothing Less” by battling back, the first blossoms of resentment open their petals.
Hardness doesn’t learn through battle, they battle back, and wonder why their love is attacking.
Warriors learn from the Caretakers, through teaching. I’ve even heard men, myself included, wish their wife would just teach them or tell them what they want. They would do anything for their loves, but their consistent “Accept Nothing Less” energy, selfishly focuses their attention on their needs and desires.
When softness returns to “Putting Up With Less,” hardness thinks the battle is resolved. They hope, they wish, because they love their caretaker, and they are hard headed warriors. From their ignorance, they think everyone “Accepts Nothing Less.”
Consider this. “If you could either vacuum the carpet, or NOT vacuum the carpet, and either way the carpet would be vacuumed, which would you choose?”
“Accept Nothing Less” chooses to NOT, and “Putting Up With Less” chooses to vacuum, because “Accept Nothing Less” doesn’t mind walking on dirt. They don’t mind shedding blood to protect their people, either.
I’m softly requesting a large scale shift to “Accept Nothing Less” for the softies, because it is my preference. No, not more battles. The resource for softness to “Accept Nothing Less” is not battle, it’s influence. Softness “battles” for their preference by teaching warriors how the preference of caretakers will benefit the warrior.
I promise you that the Warriors don’t know. One time my wife said, “mmmm, foreplay,” when I was doing the dishes. I was influenced!
I teach my kiddos to offer significance or exchange.
Significance is the appreciation and love Warriors would receive for listening to the Caretakers. Exchange is what my wife offered. LOL. Of course, exchange is any value for value offer. My wife displayed wisdom, in suggesting something that we both liked, in exchange for my sacrifice.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t like doing the dishes. Her influence made my dislike much more bearable.
I give you permission to fight like a warrior, with the resources of a caretaker. I guarantee you that your preference serves the greater good. And your heart deserves to feel you doing your best, to serve it.
Serve your Heart, long before you betray it by battling for “Accept Nothing Less.”
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My baby girls have no idea what “Putting Up With Less” feels like.
Nobody gets what they want every time. The difference in “Accepting Nothing Less,” is that they never stop trying their best to serve their heart’s desire.
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